I have taken some time off over this past holiday. I typically tweet and FB on a daily basis. I also spend a lot of time thinking about my clients, how I can rock it out for them, and make lists of things that need to be done or blog topics that need to be covered in my (or their) voice. But for a total of eight days, I hardly did anything. I sat back. I reflected. I spent time with my daughter, friends, and family…and watched A LOT of movies. I guess you could say I “renewed.”
So often, we (I) get caught up in “go, go, go.” It’s easy for me to drown in work and the everyday drama that occurs. I see myself sometimes making excuses and justifying. I want to stop that this year. I want to stop, not by making some “resolution” to do so, but by taking action and BEING who I really am, and then being okay with how it is I feel…good, bad, or ugly. People are not always going to agree with you. Many of you know this. I’m in my early 30’s and it still hurts my feelings when people don’t like me. Isn’t that silly? But when I really think about it, being in this thing called “social media” has seriously got me thinking about how social space has changed things for me so much in the past 4 years.
I was absolutely moved by an article I read yesterday on how to utilize social media for voicing worries and sharing concerns. One of my favorite things from the article is this:
As risky as it maybe to expose oneself to the unknowns out there, one should never forget the possibility of easily being hurt and betrayed by those who are “close” as well. With that in mind, I guess social media provides many different ways in which one could vent and feel at unity with others out there seeking peace of mind and healing of the heart and soul!
Mental health is one of the most important things we can have. I was just having a conversation about this with a friend the other day. I don’t care how many of us “think” we have it together. It takes a village, in my opinion, to keep us together. I am one of the most positive people that my friends know (at least that’s what “they” say), but it’s not like I have amazing days all the time. We all have feelings of loneliness, or sadness, or something that we may not even be able to put our finger on. Perhaps that’s why I’m always preaching about community. Maybe it’s because at my lowest times, all I have to do is reach out to my online social space, and there is always someone there to make me laugh, talk to me, and be my friend.
I have made some of my best friends online. Some of these friends were not a part of my life a year ago. I love it! But it took going through crazy times in order to see the blessings. I’m grateful for the challenges I’ve faced over the past 12 months. I am also grateful for a New Year to improve on what I’ve begun…my business, my continual role as a mother, and my continual role as a friend. I guess my challenge to you this next year, is to reach out to people and be as real as you possibly can. It’s not worth keeping your feelings to yourself. If you’re happy, I want to be happy with you. If you’re sad, I want to be able to lift you up. If you’re celebrating, I want to be able to celebrate with you. And if there is ever the opportunity you can make to get together with your online community, take it and love it. And if there is ever a time to start living authentically, it is now.
Here’s to new friendships in 2010. And here’s to making business personal.